Domestic Violence worried about someone?
If you are in immediate danger or feel unsafe, call 911.
YWCA 24-Hour Confidential Crisis Line
Let her know that you are concerned.
Acknowledge that she is in a very difficult and scary situation.
Be supportive. Listen to her. Remember that it may be difficult for her to talk about the abuse. What she needs most is someone who will believe and listen to her.
Be non-judgmental. Respect her decisions. There are many reasons why victims stay in abusive relationships. She may leave and return to the relationship many times. Do not criticize her decisions or try to guilt her. She will need your support even more during those times.
Encourage her to participate in activities outside of the relationship.
Help her to develop a safety plan.
Encourage her to talk to people who can provide help and guidance such as the YWCA (616.451.2744).
Remember that you cannot "rescue" her. Although it is difficult to see someone you care about get hurt, ultimately the person getting hurt has to be the one to decide. Your role is to support her and help her find a way to safety and peace.
Don’t Ignore Abuse. Survivors say that when no one acknowledged that they saw the abuse or tried to help, it made them feel even more isolated and alone. Domestic violence is a crime and should be reported just like any other.
Keep Yourself Safe. These situations can be dangerous.
Call 911 if you see or hear an assault in progress. If you are outside when you see a victim being assaulted on the street or in a car write down the car license number and/or the location of the assault and call the police.